Nobody's Victim Book Review

Nobody's Victim: Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls

Released August 13, 2019

I'm actually very nervous about this post. This book could invite a lot of strange attention. The title alone makes it clear what I've dealt with or am dealing with, and the subject matter is always one to bring some comments out. As far as the book goes. I'm very happy with it. I gave it four stars for the same reason as another reviewer on Goodreads did. It was more about the language used in terms of the words "psycho" and "crazy" that left me feeling less than five stars about it. Overall this book has some good points and resources that I can go back to at any point. With more information about my rights, what's inappropriate and what has yet to be corrected by laws. 

Fighting Psychos, Stalkers, Pervs, and Trolls. Sounds like something a lot of women deal with daily. Not that every person we come into contact with is one of those, but they're a common interaction we have. I deal with trolls in my line of work. Being on the internet daily, and for most of the day very visible to anyone who sees fit to find me, my channel, my blog or my Instagram. Not that I mind. I put myself in this position years ago and have learned so much. As well as grown a much thicker skin. I'm still a highly emotional reck 98% of the time, but you never know someday it might be 50%. 

I really enjoyed what this book had to offer. The laws and rules I had no idea about surrounding things like revenge porn, stalking and online bullying made me feel a lot safer to a point. Though my state has not fully caught up to the lawmaking outside of my state. Places like New York and California are much more on top of these things. The conversations of being a survivor of sexual assault left me feeling better too. Like I had options or at least those in the current day do of how they want to prosecute and move forward. The discussion of trolls left me feeling more empowered too. The laws are catching up, and though I can't sue someone for calling me fat. In some locations, the threats that are left are taken far more serious and you can do more than just block a scary person. 

Now my problem with this book is a small one and really just me being picky as someone with mental illness. The usage of the words "psycho" and "crazy" though we all know what Carrie meant implied judgment on the mentally ill. I know that was not the intention, but it left me feeling uncomfy. Most of these were in reference to people with things like narcissism, sociopath, and other more unkind personality disorders. But I know people with things like BPD, schizophrenia and I myself have DID.  These disorders by the definition would be in the "crazy" category, and while throughout history we've been more difficlut to manage they are not considered to be dangerous. Psychosis does not imply danger, and nor does mania. Now can those with narcissism can be considered manipulative so can sociopaths, and that makes them a danger to mental health and stability. They can be quite charming when they want to be leading to unhealthy relationships and dangerous situations, but trust me they are aware of what they are doing and they just don't care. They're not "crazy" they are completely in control.

All in all this book was good I enjoyed it and will keep it on my shelf. Good resources and information, and very current so if you want to know more about now and your rights and options. This is a good book for that. Thank you I'll see you on Friday.